I know I’ve been pretty quiet on here lately. I write when I have the drive to; if I try to make myself write regularly, it becomes a chore, and I don’t have fun doing it. So when things are busy, I tend to be doing instead of writing. Horrible, I know. This past weekend, […]
A few days ago, I had my first tattoo done, and I’d like to talk about that process from an SM/pain perspective. Being familiar with pain, I knew I could handle it; but it was still a new experience, so I was a little apprehensive. In a nutshell, it wasn’t really that bad. There were […]
I don’t get to use a singletail very often. There’s really no great place for it in my house, and recently my girl and I haven’t been going out to the local dungeon very much. However, a few weekends ago we went to Frolicon, and they had a whip area set up there. Gods, but […]
In a lot of the more serious dungeons, there is no alcohol allowed. The secondary issue with that is that would require a liquor license in most places too, but nonetheless, most serious lifestylers agree that drinking and BDSM don’t go together. I’d thought that most, in fact, were teetotalers when it came to drinking […]
My friend Jerzeem, whom I’ve known since I was 10, called me a little over week ago, and said, “Sammael, if I’ve ever said or even thought anything bad of your lifestyle choice, I apologize profusely.” Amused, I let him go on, and it came out that he had encountered his first submissive girl — […]
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Would have posted this sooner, but I wanted to get permission to use the picture below first. Last weekend I went to a demonstration on medical play, focusing on needle play, medical stapling, sounding, and electro-stimulation. Some of what I saw there I was familiar with, a lot of it I wasn’t. General safety note […]
It struck me then that sadists are more than someone who gives pain, and release. A skilled sadist breaks you down so that you can rebuild yourself. Holds a mirror to you, to show you not who you think you are, not who people tell you you are, but who you really are. Sometimes you’re actually stronger than what you believe. Sometimes you’re weaker. Either way, you’re forced to see it, and deal with it.