I’ve noticed that a lot of BDSM books seem to go to extreme lengths to stress the importance of safety, safe-words, Safe-Sane-Consensual, etc. Important!: I do not think that this is a bad thing! But it seems to be at odds with some of the older BDSM traditions. For example, in my experience, there are [...]
I made a post discussing whether giving oral sex is a dominant or submissive activity. A concept somewhat related to this, which I’ve been mulling over lately, is that of “service tops.” This is a term that means a top that is in service to their bottom, doing exactly what the bottom wants, and nothing [...]
Okay, so this one isn’t exactly BDSM-related, and it’s from a while ago (I just now saw this post laying around in my drafts folder) but I still find it noteworthy. Researchers in London claim conclusive proof that the idea of a G-spot is subjective (which is basically saying that it doesn’t actually exist).
I’ll preface [...]
I am a very accepting person — my philosophy is, “If it makes you happy and is done with the informed consent of everyone involved, then wonderful!” However, there are some things that I think are flat-out wrong even if they make one happy. One of these things is some people’s idea of the ideal [...]
It seems to me that in any lifestyle, or hobby, or philosophy, many people tend to think that their way is “the right” way. If you’re doing something differently, it might work for you for a little while or a long while, but if you did it their way, then you’d definitely be better [...]
I’d like to think that I am a very tolerant guy. My opinion is, “If it floats your boat, and isn’t hurting someone else, then great!” Doesn’t mean I’m into everything, of course. For example, fecal play is on my list of “squicks.” But if you’re into things like 2 girls 1 [...]
There are certain people in the lifestyle that feel the need to tell you how long they’ve been in it almost as soon as you introduce yourself to them. This strikes me as a bit insecure — as if they are expecting or demanding some level of respect to be given (as opposed to [...]