Would have posted this sooner, but I wanted to get permission to use the picture below first. Last weekend I went to a demonstration on medical play, focusing on needle play, medical stapling, sounding, and electro-stimulation. Some of what I saw there I was familiar with, a lot of it I wasn’t. General safety note […]
I’d like to think that I am a very tolerant guy. My opinion is, “If it floats your boat, and isn’t hurting someone else, then great!” Doesn’t mean I’m into everything, of course. For example, fecal play is on my list of “squicks.” But if you’re into things like 2 girls 1 cup, then great! […]
For the past 4 days I’ve been hit by the flu, or a bad cold, or something that’s making me feel cruddy. This has resulted in me missing one party thrown by some of my lifestyle friends, a play party at the local dungeon, and a fetish ball. A new friend of mine was the […]
There are certain people in the lifestyle that feel the need to tell you how long they’ve been in it almost as soon as you introduce yourself to them. This strikes me as a bit insecure — as if they are expecting or demanding some level of respect to be given (as opposed to earned) […]
In the last post, I talked about how S&M oftentimes gets a bad reputation in popular media, whether it’s from the news story of a scene gone wrong, or the depiction of a psychopath disguised as a BDSM enthusiast in a television show. However, there are also some positive and/or accurate depictions of S&M in […]
Most people hear “S&M” and they think of psychopathic sadists, flesh being flayed from bone, emotional abuse, and other such negative things. People tend to think in extremes, but the media has definitely played its part in sensationalizing the dangerous fringes, too. A lot of us in this lifestyle and community are seeking to change […]
It struck me then that sadists are more than someone who gives pain, and release. A skilled sadist breaks you down so that you can rebuild yourself. Holds a mirror to you, to show you not who you think you are, not who people tell you you are, but who you really are. Sometimes you’re actually stronger than what you believe. Sometimes you’re weaker. Either way, you’re forced to see it, and deal with it.