BDSM Weblog

My friend Clarisse recently posted about sexual fluidity, and it got me thinking about my girl.

You see, she used to describe herself as lesbian to other people (before we started going out, of course), but actually identified as bisexual. This is because she was one of those women that are mostly attracted to other women, but apparently being a bisexual woman gets you shunned from the lesbian community. Which I thought was odd and counterintuitive, but the more I looked into it the more I found that to be true. Maybe it’s just a regional thing — I don’t have much data from other regions.

But then I remembered that this sort of thing, which seems hypocritical to me, happens in BDSM a lot too.

I really just don’t get it. Is it just that most people have knee-jerk emotional reactions and can’t see past them? I would think that people who are members of fringe groups would be innately accepting of other non-traditional groups, but I suppose I underestimate the tendency of people to believe that everyone else should be like them, regardless of whether they are in the minority or majority.

I challenge you, dear reader, to think about what things you pre-judge people for, and think hard about whether or not that’s fair. To use a common example: if someone tells you that they’re a furry, does that automatically lower your opinion of them? (Poor furries get no respect; I personally think they’re adorable!)

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