The idea of informed consent is one of the core principles of BDSM. It’s in the two most common acronyms, SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual) and RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink). Without consent, what we do is immoral and illegal — well in many places, what we do is illegal even with consent, but I digress. […]
I made a post discussing whether giving oral sex is a dominant or submissive activity. A concept somewhat related to this, which I’ve been mulling over lately, is that of “service tops.” This is a term that means a top that is in service to their bottom, doing exactly what the bottom wants, and nothing […]
Okay, so this one isn’t exactly BDSM-related, and it’s from a while ago (I just now saw this post laying around in my drafts folder) but I still find it noteworthy. Researchers in London claim conclusive proof that the idea of a G-spot is subjective (which is basically saying that it doesn’t actually exist). I’ll […]
At first blush, it seems like giving oral sex is a submissive activity. You’re giving pleasure to another, and it’s as simple as that. Or is it? When I first started thinking about this, I had heard people in the past talk about how giving oral sex is a sign of dominance. The first time […]