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		<title>Old Friends, New Kinks</title>
		<description><![CDATA[My friend Jerzeem, whom I&#8217;ve known since I was 10, called me a little over week ago, and said, &#8220;Sammael, if I&#8217;ve ever said or even thought anything bad of your lifestyle choice, I apologize profusely.&#8221; Amused, I let him go on, and it came out that he had encountered his first submissive girl &#8212; [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://bdsmweblog.com/2010/03/03/old-friends-new-kinks/</link>
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		<title>Carotid Chokes and Breath Play</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I mentioned breath play a bit in my last post; specifically, that Jay Wiseman is against all forms of breath play. And as a preface to this, don&#8217;t try carotid chokes until you&#8217;ve been taught by someone who knows what they&#8217;re doing, and have practiced it with someone on the other end that knows what [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://bdsmweblog.com/2010/02/18/carotid-chokes-and-breath-play/</link>
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		<title>Tame BDSM &#8220;How-To&#8221; Books</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve noticed that a lot of BDSM books seem to go to extreme lengths to stress the importance of safety, safe-words, Safe-Sane-Consensual, etc. Important!: I do not think that this is a bad thing! But it seems to be at odds with some of the older BDSM traditions. For example, in my experience, there are [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://bdsmweblog.com/2010/02/15/tame-bdsm-how-to-books/</link>
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		<title>Guilt in BDSM</title>
		<description><![CDATA[As a top, guilt has been my constant enemy.  Psychology, the church, popular media&#8230; our culture at large tells us pretty point-blank that you&#8217;re sick if you like inflicting pain on someone else; if you enjoy having absolute power over them; if you enjoy degrading them.  These things are bad &#8212; never mind if [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://bdsmweblog.com/2010/02/04/guilt-in-bdsm/</link>
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		<title>When is Consent not Consent?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[The idea of informed consent is one of the core principles of BDSM.  It&#8217;s in the two most common acronyms, SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual) and RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink).  Without consent, what we do is immoral and illegal &#8212; well in many places, what we do is illegal even with consent, but [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://bdsmweblog.com/2010/01/29/when-is-consent-not-consent/</link>
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		<title>Service Tops</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I made a post discussing whether giving oral sex is a dominant or submissive activity.  A concept somewhat related to this, which I&#8217;ve been mulling over lately, is that of &#8220;service tops.&#8221;   This is a term that means a top that is in service to their bottom, doing exactly what the bottom wants, and nothing [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://bdsmweblog.com/2010/01/25/service-tops/</link>
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		<title>G-Spot May Not Exist?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Okay, so this one isn&#8217;t exactly BDSM-related, and it&#8217;s from a while ago (I just now saw this post laying around in my drafts folder) but I still find it noteworthy.  Researchers in London claim conclusive proof that the idea of a G-spot is subjective (which is basically saying that it doesn&#8217;t actually exist).
I&#8217;ll preface [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://bdsmweblog.com/2010/01/23/g-spot-may-not-exist/</link>
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		<title>Giving Oral Sex: Dominant or Submissive Activity?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[At first blush, it seems like giving oral sex is a submissive activity.  You&#8217;re giving pleasure to another, and it&#8217;s as simple as that.
Or is it?
When I first started thinking about this, I had heard people in the past talk about how giving oral sex is a sign of dominance.  The first time [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://bdsmweblog.com/2010/01/02/giving-oral-sex-dominant-or-submissive-activity/</link>
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		<title>FetLife Giveaway</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Okay, I know I haven&#8217;t posted in a while, but&#8230; FetLife.com is doing a &#8220;Sit on Kinky Santa&#8217;s Lap&#8221; promotion and giving away nearly $25,000 worth of kinky toys and equipment.  So if you haven&#8217;t already, get on there and fill out your kinky wishlist!
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		<link>http://bdsmweblog.com/2009/12/08/fetlife-giveaway/</link>
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		<title>&#8220;True Slaves&#8221; and Consent</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I am a very accepting person &#8212; my philosophy is, &#8220;If it makes you happy and is done with the informed consent of everyone involved, then wonderful!&#8221;  However, there are some things that I think are flat-out wrong even if they make one happy.  One of these things is some people&#8217;s idea of the ideal [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://bdsmweblog.com/2009/08/30/true-slaves-and-consent/</link>
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