Comments on: Positive S&M in the Media http://bdsmweblog.com/2009/01/15/positive-sm-in-the-media/ My thoughts on, and experiences in, the BDSM lifestyle Sun, 06 May 2012 22:10:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Sarah http://bdsmweblog.com/2009/01/15/positive-sm-in-the-media/comment-page-1/#comment-53 Sarah Tue, 06 Oct 2009 17:48:26 +0000 http://bdsmweblog.com/?p=26#comment-53 I liked “Secretary” more than lady heather couse its like a real couble experince new thingsbut lady heather focus on a life style. I couldnt see "Rome" . it needs another link couse 'youtube' says its a private video. I liked “Secretary” more than lady heather couse its like a real couble experince new thingsbut lady heather focus on a life style.
I couldnt see “Rome” . it needs another link couse ‘youtube’ says its a private video.

]]> By: Sammael http://bdsmweblog.com/2009/01/15/positive-sm-in-the-media/comment-page-1/#comment-10 Sammael Fri, 16 Jan 2009 08:38:42 +0000 http://bdsmweblog.com/?p=26#comment-10 It certainly isn't an ideal representation of BDSM, no. However, as far as something digestible by the American culture at large, I think it did a reasonably good job of giving an example of a BDSM relationship (though admittedly unrealistic in many ways, as you point out). Interesting link. I've always known on an intuitive level that romantic comedies (and romance movies in general) are incredibly unrealistic. Movies in general tend to be that way -- exaggerated at the least, ranging to the fantastical. I would like to dig into the study itself more. As is said in statistics, correlation does not imply causation -- it just could be that people who already have unrealistic goals of relationships tend to watch those movies. It certainly isn’t an ideal representation of BDSM, no. However, as far as something digestible by the American culture at large, I think it did a reasonably good job of giving an example of a BDSM relationship (though admittedly unrealistic in many ways, as you point out).

Interesting link. I’ve always known on an intuitive level that romantic comedies (and romance movies in general) are incredibly unrealistic. Movies in general tend to be that way — exaggerated at the least, ranging to the fantastical. I would like to dig into the study itself more. As is said in statistics, correlation does not imply causation — it just could be that people who already have unrealistic goals of relationships tend to watch those movies.

]]> By: Clarisse http://bdsmweblog.com/2009/01/15/positive-sm-in-the-media/comment-page-1/#comment-9 Clarisse Fri, 16 Jan 2009 06:05:52 +0000 http://bdsmweblog.com/?p=26#comment-9 I haven't seen the other two, but have mixed feelings about "Secretary". Yes, it is kind of overall positive, but it doesn't actually give us any idea of how to create any reasonable communication in a relationship. On the other hand, <a href="http://twoliablog.com/relationship-underarm-stick/2008/12/16/do-romantic-comedies-ruin-relationships/" rel="nofollow">romantic comedies never do</a>, and I guess it's pretty cool to have a BDSM romantic comedy out there. I also don't like the way it makes it seem like neither partner in that relationship has any actual preferences. Seriously, they just do whatever ... there's no indication that one of them has any real sexual preferences, other than "yay BDSM", which is too broad. Again though, what can you expect from a romantic comedy? I guess vanilla romantic comedies are simply "yay sex" with no talk of preferences, so ... it's just doing what other romantic comedies already do, and I just notice it more. I haven’t seen the other two, but have mixed feelings about “Secretary”. Yes, it is kind of overall positive, but it doesn’t actually give us any idea of how to create any reasonable communication in a relationship. On the other hand, romantic comedies never do, and I guess it’s pretty cool to have a BDSM romantic comedy out there.

I also don’t like the way it makes it seem like neither partner in that relationship has any actual preferences. Seriously, they just do whatever … there’s no indication that one of them has any real sexual preferences, other than “yay BDSM”, which is too broad. Again though, what can you expect from a romantic comedy? I guess vanilla romantic comedies are simply “yay sex” with no talk of preferences, so … it’s just doing what other romantic comedies already do, and I just notice it more.

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